Once you achieve this level of personal coherence and life authorship, you then reach the point at which you the portal. You become the doorway through which others can seize the opportunity and the invitation to change.

You become an atmosphere changer, a sniper systematically eliminating the old realities of trauma-based living, first for yourself, and then for those around you.

And this is the one and only lie he needs to make unassailable. This is the grandest of his efforts. He wishes to destroy the checks and balances, or at least give the appearance that he has. In this way, we fall under the spell of our own inessentiality. We fall prey to our sense that it is futile to even attempt real change or to invest in a tomorrow that may never come.

But the key to recovering from any exploitative, toxic, trauma bond is actually to begin to see the glitches in the matrix.

Comfort lies! That is what I have started calling them. They are the bald-faced lies of empire that we have come to rely upon as solace in a world that is rapidly destroying human decency and initiating us all into global, patriarchal, white supremacist fascism.

Naked and in the fold, You must be bold. Leave him. Let him feel the cold. Look your fear of freedom in the face. Marry it up to your grace. You are gold. Wise One. Turn the Wheel.